The server at my restaurant, my barista, my neighbor, at some point of these people will offend me [again.] I’ll be hurt and angry about this. Maybe I’ll say some unsightly words or yell at them (in the comfort of my car where they would never know of course.) Then I’ll go on with my day. Ignore the fact that I’ve made these decisions to devalue people I don’t know.
People who have a life and experiences that I’ll never know about. These people will never be close to me. I make decisions about these people every day when they offend me.
I decide their value.
I decide their potential.
I decide this all based on my own experiences.
…my own value.
…my own humanity.
Now it is time to start remembering these are real people, not simply nameless faces. I need to engage these people the way I would engage my friends, let them make mistakes (even if it negatively effects me.) I need to assume these people are just like me. They have life experiences, value, and they are worth more than me projecting my baggage on them and deciding their worth accordingly.
What do you use to decide others’ worth?