I was recently observing someone who is older than I am and their children are much older than my boy is. They were lamenting a decision one one child was making and did not appreciate a turn another child’s life had taken. The parent fully loves their children, they were in a moment of expressing concern for the differences their children had decided to make in their own lives.
As the parent expressed their concern, I had to mark it down. I had to mark down an acknowledgement of my own future feeling. I had to put a flag in the ground to remind myself that my child will make decisions, but these decisions will not always be my decisions and I will have to find a way to love him and support him as my boy.
Remembering what has not happened, but is yet to come, will be most important when it happens.
I cannot let my feelings overrun me in the moment or I might forget those who have gone before me and forget the lesson they taught me.
Other people will make decisions I do not completely agree with. My continued involvement in their lives will be dictated by my reaction to their decision.
How do you react to decisions you disagree with? How do you treat people who make different decisions than you? What is your threshold for the difference between the importance of a person and the importance of a decision?